The holiday season is often depicted as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration, but for many, it can bring significant stress and emotional strain.
In this episode of Mindful Conversations, Alexa sat down with Amy Mosset of Interactive Counselling to explore strategies for navigating the challenges of holiday-specific family dynamics.
“Stress looks different for everyone,” Amy shared early in the discussion. From financial pressures to family conflicts, she explained that many struggle to balance the demands of the season. “Who goes where, when, how? And then the dynamics between in-laws, outlaws—it’s a lot.”
Amy emphasized the importance of setting boundaries and being proactive rather than reactive, advising, “Instead of people-pleasing, look internally at what your boundaries are, financially and emotionally.” The discussion highlighted proactive approaches to common issues. Amy suggested, “Create a holiday bucket list with your family. Decide on activities that align with your values and budget.”
Alexa, reflecting on the conversation, noted, “I’ve never thought about actually sitting down and writing what I want the holiday season to be about. That’s so empowering.” Amy agreed, encouraging listeners to engage their families, including children, in these discussions.
A recurring theme was shifting focus from materialism to meaningful moments. Amy recounted a simple yet cherished family tradition: “We made a Christmas bucket list, watched non-mainstream holiday movies together, and just cuddled on the couch. My son said, ‘That was a fabulous day.’ It doesn’t take a lot.”
Amy offered suggestions for creating meaningful connections without overspending: “It’s not about the number of gifts under the tree but the experiences we share. Whether it’s skating at Stewart Park or volunteering together, those moments matter.”
The conversation also touched on loneliness during the holidays. Amy encouraged listeners to step outside their comfort zones: “Connection doesn’t have to be complicated. Smile at someone, strike up a conversation, or invite someone to join you for a holiday activity. Small gestures can have a big impact.” Alexa reflected, “Some of the best chats I’ve had were in grocery store lines.”
Alexa also highlighted the value of community contributions, such as wrapping gifts for underprivileged children or creating cards for seniors. Amy added, “These small acts of giving back not only make a difference for others but also ground us in the true spirit of the season.”
In addressing holiday-induced stress, Amy emphasized the need for self-care, though she prefers to frame it differently: “I encourage my clients to strive for peace and calm rather than happiness. It creates balance and helps navigate life’s ups and downs.”
For those feeling overwhelmed, Amy recommended prioritizing self-reflection and seeking support. “This is a great time to check in with yourself. Therapy can help you not only cope with holiday stress but also set goals for the year ahead.” She added, “Fine is the F-word in our practice—don’t settle for just getting by.”
This perspective resonated with Alexa, who noted, “You’ve given me so much to think about—finding peace instead of chasing happiness feels revolutionary.”
Watch the entire episode above for the full story and in-depth discussion.
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